Family Matters | Mark 3:31–35
And his mother and
his brothers came, and standing outside they sent to him and called him. 32 And a crowd was
sitting around him, and they said to him, “Your mother and your brothers are
outside, seeking you.” 33 And
he answered them, “Who are my mother and my brothers?” 34 And looking about at those who sat around him,
he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! 35 For whoever does the will of God, he is my brother
and sister and mother.”
By this point, Joseph seems to have died, but not before fathering
children with Mary. Matthew 1:25 suggests
that they engaged in marital relations after the birth of Christ, and Luke 2:7
says that Jesus is her firstborn. Over the years, the Roman Catholic Church developed
the false idea that Mary remained a perpetual virgin, a theory never taught in
Scripture and disproved by this text. Jesus
had siblings, but there are even more powerful truths here.
First, Jesus’s
earthly family weren’t His first priority.
He sought to turn His mother’s eyes to kingdom priorities (Lk 2:49; Jn
2:4). However, His family had taken on
an adversarial role, seeking to detain Him because they thought He’d lost His
mind (Mk 3:21). So, Jesus was living
what He taught in Luke 14:26, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own
father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even
his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”
This doesn’t mean that He didn’t care for them; His younger brothers could
handle the finances, and He’ll later leave Mary in the spiritual care of the
Apostle John (Jn 19:26–27). Even so, He commands
us to “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness” (Mt 6:33). We must take care of our families (1 Tm 5:8),
but they don’t come before obeying the Lord (Acts 5:29).
Second, true kinship is in
Christ. Mark’s contrast is between Jesus’s
flesh-and-blood relations and those who God adopts into the family of
Christ. Christians become God’s children
(Jn 1:12–13; Rm 8:16; 1 Jn 3:1–2). This
brings new meaning Him sticking closer than a brother (Pv 18:24), and that God’s
a Father to the fatherless (Ps 68:5)!
Thankfully, Jesus’s family comes to believe in Him (Acts
1:14). Our family coming to Christ is a
possible result of our salvation and faithfulness (Lk 19:9; Acts 16:31). Still, many converts to Christ find
themselves rejected by an earthly family, and must therefore cling more closely
to the family of Christ.